Holding Grudges

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Holding Grudges

Holding Grudges

Holding grudges is easy. If you have ever been deeply hurt, you understand the struggle of not holding a grudge. The more intense the pain, the stronger the temptation to seek revenge. We can’t deny that this temptation exists within us. A harsh look at the right time, deliberately ignoring them, and gossip are all forms of revenge. The deepest wounds often come from those we love the most, making it even harder to let go. But remember, the Lord is there to help us release our reprisals.

Leviticus 19:18

18 “‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.


Help for Holding Grudges

Holding Grudges

Abandoning our vicious thoughts and stinging pain requires us to know, trust, and hold on to certain attributes of God.

God makes it known that vengeance belongs to Him. First, we can take away from this that taking vengeance, even if only in thought, is a form of usurping God’s authority. We don’t trust God to be true to Himself as the exactor of justice. Instead, we climb onto His throne, supposing we are greater than He, not unlike that rebellious angel, Lucifer. Vengeance is a form of idolatry; remembering this can shock us from our vicious fixation.

We struggle with this because the Lord delays His justice. When people act horrible, we want to see immediate action from God. But He is patient, which can frustrate us, especially if we have seen many people seemingly get away with wickedness in our lives. But God reminds us that He is merciful to everyone. He wants us to be gratified by His patience with the most wicked because His patience with them gives us greater confidence that He is patient with us when we sin. If God can give new mercy to the vilest offenders, we can have complete assurance that He is not angry at us for our sins. Had He not been patient with us, His justice would have resulted in our immediate death, which is the penalty for sin. Because He was patient, it gave us time to find Him, seek His forgiveness, and receive His salvation. We can’t praise Him for His patience with us while being frustrated with His patience with others.

To escape the difficult temptation of vengeance, we must set these truths in our minds, let them dictate our behavior despite what we feel, and let God be God. Then, we will see our anger subside little by little.

Prayer: Lord, help me let go and forgive. Amen.

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